Today I want to ask you a question: What is that situation, at work, that makes you feel bad, or what happened that you are not proud of?
Do you have it?
I want to talk to you about the concept of the resignification. And to explain what it consists of, first I’m going to tell you about the meaning.
Meaning is the mental or emotional value that we place on experiences.
As you may have heard, reality is neutral. Between what happens and what you tell yourself is happening to you is your interpretation, the meaning you give it.
That is why before the same events there are people who interpret it, and consequently, they live it differently.
Notice that the boiling water that softens a potato hardens the egg.
What does this mean?
Well, we cannot change the events of the past, but we can change the meaning we give it, and consequently the thoughts and emotions we have in reference to it.
And that would be the resignification.
This is important because the brain acts by associating ideas, and if you have experienced something that has marked you, it conditions you in the future, because you relate what happens in your present with what happened in your past and the emotions associated with that event in the past, limiting you on many occasions.
How can you give it that new meaning? Well, respecting what happened, extract learning, life lesson, do not stay with the negative experience.
In this way, you will connect with the different, more positive and deep down, more useful emotion.
If, for example, you had a bad relationship with a boss or colleague, you can look further and interpret it as a sign that to continue developing yourself, your next step is to learn to set limits, respect yourself, and assert your opinion. A sign of what you should be working on for your own growth.
You are also going from the position of victim to that of responsible for your life and act proactively: it will encourage you to develop your communication, assertiveness, etc.
Working in this way is a way to empower yourself and orient yourself towards the future.
Resignifying helps you to accept and forgive yourself.
Extract that positive part of learning. It is about the same situation but with a different attitude, in which the brain goes into solution mode, abandoning the complaint.
Obviously some experiences may have been more difficult than others, the objective is to find balance, avoiding blaming or lamenting without further ado.
Find an interpretation that is more enabling you to accept your past and focus on your future.
It is a way for you to seek a new way of seeing it that is USEFUL for you in your present and your future.
Think about that situation and what you think about that situation:
- Is it useful for you to think like this?
- Does it make you feel good?
If not, I encourage you to find a way to re-signify them.
Some questions that can help you to give that positive meaning :
- What positive aspects did you discover about yourself in that situation?
- What opportunities did you find as a result of that situation?
- What did that situation allow you to learn?
- What is your predisposition to seek the positive aspect?
Logically there can be very tragic situations in life, in these cases the work is focused on the acceptance, to open your gaze to other aspects of your life beyond a specific situation.
Whatever the situation, it is not always easy to see the positive side when we are emotionally immersed in it, so it is a good idea to have help if you consider it necessary.